When politics, sports, or any other emotionally upsetting issues pop up in our daily conversations, we may feel the urge to withdraw when one or more of the following occur:
- Anger erupts as emotions intensify.
- Language turns hostile.
- Speech takes on an agitated or strident tone.
- It serves no purpose to prolong the conversation.
- You need to be somewhere else.
A graceful exit – one that leaves all parties feeling positive about the interaction, is the proper etiquette.
1. Try exiting the topic:
“It’s not my intention to change the subject abruptly, but what restaurant serves the best seafood around?”
2. Compliment the person who is getting under your skin.
“Lilian, I like the way you defend your convictions.”
3. Show them that you support other points of view.
“Dare, I never considered it from that angle. Your view is interesting.”
4. Don’t forget to smile while taking your leave.
“Wow, my time is far spent. I would have loved to continue this discussion but I’ve really got to be on my way now.”
In conclusion, always keep in mind that people will hold opinions that differ from yours and that is okay. This is what adds colour to interactions and it need not devolve into hostility.
